FAQs for NICU Dads

It depends on your unit’s policy. Most NICUs have set visiting hours and may limit the number of people at the cot. Ask the nurses or check the unit’s information sheet. Many units welcome parents 24/7 or with flexible hours for parents.

You can bond in many ways: talking or reading to your baby, touching their hand or foot (when staff say it’s okay), nappy changes and care when you’re allowed, and skin-to-skin (kangaroo care) when your baby is ready. Ask the nurse what’s possible today.

It depends on your baby’s condition. Staff will tell you when they’re stable enough. Even if it’s not possible yet, you can still be present, talk to your baby, and do care tasks when offered. Ask: “When might we be able to try skin-to-skin?”

Yes. Staff expect parents to ask again—things change, and it’s easy to forget. If you didn’t understand the answer, say so: “Can you explain that in simpler terms?” or “What does that mean for us day to day?”

There’s no single answer; it depends on feeding, breathing, weight, and your unit’s criteria. Ask the team: “What are we working towards for discharge?” and “Roughly what’s the next milestone?” They’ll give you a better idea as time goes on.

Lots of dads feel that way. You’re not useless. Being there, asking questions, supporting your partner, and doing small care tasks (when allowed) all matter. Use our Practical Tips and Emotional Support guides, and talk to someone—partner, friend, or another NICU dad.